I do not consider myself a “horse person”.
To be honest, I probably know just a little more about horses than the average person.
When I go horseback riding, I request the”well-trained, easy one”.
I tend to dissociate, especially when I get anxious or stressed. I’ll ruminate, over-analyze, and soon my head is hula hoop central. Being around horses is a powerful, multi-sensorial physical experience, so it calls me back to my body, over and over again, and out of my head, bringing me more fully to the present moment.
In relationships with others, I can swing between it’s all about what’s happening to me, (narcissistic wound, ouch), to it’s all about what’s happening for you (and there’s my codependency). When I’m riding a horse, if I’m out of balance relationally, safety is compromised and harmony is lost in the wind. The horse's natural way of being in relationship helps illuminate the path back to connection one step at a time.
“Novelty seeking is one of the traits that keeps us healthy and happy as we age.” wrote scientist and researcher C. Robert Cloninger. I know this to be true for me. I’m a seeker and a wanderer. I never feel more fully alive than when I’m learning something new, when I’m being challenged, and when I’m awestruck.
So why do I ride horses: they take me to the place where I want to live: in a felt sense of harmonious connection to all there is, with some wonder and awe sprinkled in.